Real men are gentle. Desiring God has a lot of great articles and teaching videos on what Biblical Manhood is. I would highly recommend them to my Christian brothers. Nothing has made me hunger more for being the man we’re called to be in Christ. You can message me for specific recommendations. The resources I’ve seen on Biblical Womanhood are also quite excellent from what I’ve seen.
Here’s a link to one of my favorite articles explaining why real men are gentle: The Strongest Men Are Gentle | Desiring God Ministries